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Quite a Predickament: Book Review

In their newest book, all this can be yours, from University of Hell Press, Isobel O’Hare tackles sexual assailants by using their own words against them.

While sexual assault is nothing new, the movements that thrusted into the spotlight in 2017 felt fresh, invigorated … liberated, even. #MeToo (co-opted from its creator Tarana Burke) came storming out the gate as many strong people came forward to say, “Time’s up!” to the men who had assaulted them and effectively tried to ruin their careers.

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Isobel O’Hare — the queer writer tackling sexual assault with poetry.

A survivor of sexual assault, queen and gender non-binary femme poet and essayist Isobel O’Hare (pronouns they/them/their) felt a rage-fire burning inside their stomach, and took to the page to begin their catharsis to quell the feelings that the movement churned inside of them. O’Hare (who was a generally known name in the literary community even before their erasure poetry took on the likes of Weinstein, Spacey, Takei, Piven and many other sexual assailants) couldn’t have anticipated what would happen the day they took some print-outs of the statements released by these men after allegations arose against them and began to Sharpie them into what they really were.

Erasure poetry, for those unfamiliar, is a form of found poetry in which a writer blacks or whites out words from an original text in order to create a new text. In this case, O’Hare was erasing just enough to show what these “apologies” actually were—bullshit excuses. And before long, people in the lit community began to notice, sharing them across social media until the actual media got their hands on O’Hare’s work—publicizing it high and low. In the published collection of these erasure poems, all this can be yours, O’Hare admits that they weren’t sure what to make of the attention, and that they didn’t always love it. Still, what O’Hare had done was speaking to people. So much so, in fact, that they were extended an offer to collect the poems into a book by University of Hell Press, set to be released next month.

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Much like O’Hare themself, the book holds nothing back. Opening with a foreword entitled catalyst, Isobel delves directly into what brought them to take on the task of creating this art. They say,

“I was exhausted by the constant revelations of abuse by men in positions of power, and I found myself avoiding social media for weeks at a time because it was too painful to read …”

From there, they tell the story of how the statements they read were riddled with parts to be criticized, and how they simply “grabbed a Sharpie and went to work.” But for better or for worse, that’s exactly what the book doesn’t feel like it ever was—work. That’s not to diminish what was surely an exhausting amount of time an energy that O’Hare surely put into this collection. There’s no doubt that they were exhausted not only physically and mentally, but emotionally, as well. It is to say, however, that O’Hare’s poise and poignant power to embolden the words that matter in these pieces feel somehow natural—as if they knew exactly what they were doing even before they began.

The book is separated into three major sections (apology, apologia, and in conclusion) with apology being broken down into subsections (a question I run from, a culture of demons, I recall differentlyand She never said no), each subtitle taken from a separate “apology” letter with poems that are categorically connected to one another. And while each erasure goes without the name of the assailant in question, reading through allows the readers just enough sight of the original text beneath the Sharpie to figure out who the statements came from. O’Hare explained their decision to leave the names out by stating that the men in question are not the overarching problem, but that rape, abuse, and harassment extend far beyond just this handful of assholes by name. In doing so, O’Hare eviscerates the limits of who their poetry can reach—who can relate to it—who can understand. By eliminating the Hollywood elitist titles, O’Hare has created a tome that can be empathized with by all victims of assault—women, men, non-binary, cis, trans, black, white, and everything in between.

23511451_922398294590813_5641015677060572967_o-240x300 Quite a Predickament: Book ReviewIn a question I run from, Isobel organizes their poems as if the assailant in question (this entire section composed of varying poems crafted from the same statement by the same man) is not making an argument for himself that better maps out the transgressions that have come to pass. Rather, they landscape the truth of what this man has said—how his obsession with his own phallus has hypnotized him so that he cannot even form a proper method of amends without bringing it up. Each poem, beginning with just the words my dick runs the original narrator in circles with him never making a point. Instead, the poems create a pastiche of illustrations of just how phallocentric and power-obsessed this man is and has always been. More so, in the poem your dick, O’Hare brings about a chilling reminder that this man is a manifestation of all sexual predators simply by saying, “my dick is your dick.”

In a culture of demons, O’Hare spins these “apologies” into something more accurately articulated—flippancy for bad behavior and a lack of accountability on the part of the assailants. O’Hare even shows how laden some statements even are with the desire to be forgiven, simply because the accused doesn’t wish to suffer damage to their career and reputation rather than from actual remorse. I recall differently is similar, but takes the words of these men—usually notes about how they are innocent rather than an attempt at taking responsibility for their actions—and reduces them to the honest male fragility under attack that they really are. It’s the point in the book where anger and rage beget feminism, as readers will see that nothing in the statements are really more than what O’Hare has laid out: femme-shaming. Each poem questions the integrity of the stories told by the women who have come forward simply for no other reason than that the victims are, in fact, women. In a series of consecutive poems, reusing the phrase “these women,” O’Hare lets misogyny take center stage, at last, to prove that what these assailants are is nothing less than male chauvinists using an eons-old culture of shaming women into submission to try to plead their cases.

23632450_925156077648368_6469047882766377634_o-240x300 Quite a Predickament: Book ReviewThings get particularly interesting in She never said no, which I found to be the most chilling part of the entire collection. For it’s here that O’Hare concisely lets the true statements shine: a lack of women declining to have sex, whether from fear, or shock, or drugs, or any other reason. Here, in this very short portion of the book, O’Hare deals with why not saying no does not equal consent.

“We tend to think so much in binaries that we point at victims and ask why they didn’t fight or flee, because we believe those are the only instinctual responses to a threat. There is, in fact, another response that might be more prevalent in cases of sexual assault than in the presence of any other threat: the freeze response.”

The last part of the book, apologia, takes the responses of other notable names to the accusations—one of which was even that of a very influential woman who stated that maybe women should accept some of the blame. And by erasing these statements, O’Hare has highlighted the ignorance and the ability that exist in many to be persuaded to say what may help one keep their social standing, or what one truly and quite stupidly believes to be true.

25594351_945081485655827_8962866463112971868_n-300x300 Quite a Predickament: Book ReviewAlas, the poetry alone is beautiful, but it’s O’Hare imploring that we recognize that their book is just one part of a much larger mosaic that really polishes it. O’Hare knows that they are not the face of this revolution, and they acknowledge that more than once in catalyst. O’Hare—a white, queer, non-binary femme—writes in extraordinary verbiage that they are aware that their experience with sexual assault is different from that of so many other, especially those in the trans community and that of women of color. And in doing so, O’Hare finds a correlation to their own life against this collage of poetry: that they are not entirely represented, either. O’Hare states that being non-binary, they felt a certain distance from the issue. But as the saying goes, “Nevertheless they persisted.” In acknowledging that they are not the voice of the movement, O’Hare has broadened the availability of to so many who haven’t had an outlet for their grief, anger, and disgust before. They write, “I do not claim to be the voice of a movement, and I wouldn’t want to be.” But that’s just the thing: Isobel isn’t the voice—they are, in fact, one of the standing microphones at the edge of the stage that are allowing other survivors to come forth and say, “We aren’t taking this bullshit anymore.” They’re valiantly fighting the good fight, but knowing that they aren’t doing so alone—knowing that there are others, alike and unlike, that have experienced similar tragedy and emotions. And, in doing so, O’Hare has pieced together what may just be one of the most powerful pieces of art our generation will see. Certainly it is one of the most beautiful that will come from this movement; and it is so because Isobel isn’t trying to save the world—they’re creating more seats at the table for a much larger revolution to come.

all this can be yours is nothing short of a masterpiece, and the reading list that accompanies it with pieces by many black, queer, and feminist writers is well worth further investigating. O’Hare is a lone fire on a very cold island where, unfortunately, too many people who have suffered the same tragedy have been forced to exist. However, with their warmth and perseverance, Isobel—like the fire they are—is bringing comfort to those who have gone so long without it.

You can purchase all this can be yours here. All proceeds will go to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) and Futures Without Violence.

Ask Ian #2

Ask Ian Trans Advice Column

A Trans Advice Column

11899942_413493005505053_8390096606907780785_n-e1519059210512-296x300 Ask Ian #2This addition to the About Trans section is designed to aid in the spread of information about transgender-related topics. All questions are welcome from all walks of life. This includes cisgender, transgender, and non-conforming people. Questions may be edited for content, and all names are changed to protect anonymity.

Please submit your questions to ian@about-online.com


I have a friend who is a trans man. I have known this guy since he was a girl. I mean, he looked like a girl and lived as one. I never knew that he would transition over to male, but because I’ve known him a long time, it’s very hard for me to call him by his male name and use the correct pronouns. I keep slipping up and calling him his birth name; and I know it bothers him but he’s been very understanding so far. I love him with all of my heart and want to respect him. How can I make the switch in my head so that we can both come to terms with his transition and move forward?


Congratulations, my friend! You’re already most of the way there! It can be hard to make the switch, and I’m glad he is giving you time and patience. In the meantime, I would sit down to have a talk with him about how he feels, and maybe seek some understanding about what it means to be trans. Even more than that, discuss how he wants to be referred to when speaking about his past.  

The most important thing you can remember is that when you make a mistake, and you will, apologize quickly, correct yourself, and move on. Don’t make a big deal out of it, because that can be much more upsetting. In the end, you’ll find that you make these mistakes less and less, until you see him as he is now, not how he was.

So, I started taking hormones about a month ago, and things are great! I swear that everything is changing really fast. When I talk to my friends and family, they say nothing is different yet, and it’s all in my head. Who is right? I don’t think I’m crazy, but I really do think things are different already!


I know exactly how you feel! When I started testosterone, I felt like everyone should recognize the changes right away!

To start, let’s just say right off the bat that you aren’t crazy. The changes you feel are absolutely there, even if they aren’t visible. Cross-sex hormones will start to work on your brain first, and will begin to rewire the way you think and feel. As far as changes on the outside, they will take some time to become apparent. It can be hard to explain the differences in how you feel; but trust that, with time, other people will see the changes, too. Having patience with your transition is the hardest part in my opinion!

I’m transgender, and I’m not able to start hormones yet. I’ve been thinking about trying some of those testosterone boosters you see in stores. Will it work?


Great question, and I’m glad you asked before trying something like this.

The supplements that you find over the counter are not meant for transgender men. They do not work on the type of testosterone we have naturally in our bodies, so any changes you see will be very minor, if any at all. These boosters can cause some serious side effects, namely liver damage. The cost is much too high, with little-to-no payoff. I do not advise taking anything over the counter. The only proven, safe method of transition is cross-sex hormone therapy overseen by a licensed physician.

I have a friend who started to take hormones, and she’s so emotional! I don’t know how to tell her that the hormones are making her crazy, but I don’t think they’re good for her. Any advice?


The first thing to remember is that your friend is going through some major changes, and that can be hard on anyone. It’s vital that you be as understanding as possible, and recognize that what she’s going through is necessary in order for her to become the person she is.

Please remember that when you talk to her, don’t say that you think her hormones are hurting her. They aren’t, they’re doing a lot to help her become the person she was always meant to be. Sit down with your friend and ask her how you can help. Let her know that you notice she’s much more emotional lately, and see if there is anything she wants to share with you. Transition can be a difficult time for most of us, and if she knows you have her best interests at heart, it will go a long way to helping her adjust. Support systems are our most important resource!

Community Highlight: The Montrose Center

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Recognizing local nonprofits for LGBTQIA people.

The goal of the following article is to provide information about the availability of programs provided at the Montrose Center. The following has been compiled with the help of the executive and administrative teams at the center. This information is also available on their website, as well is a more comprehensive look at what you will find if you ever needed help. Please do not hesitate to reach out to the Montrose Center if you ever find yourself in a position that you are unsure of where to turn.

(HOUSTON) – In 1977, the Houston Bar Association invited singer and anti-gay rights activist Anita Bryant to perform at their annual conference in the city, and the local LGBTQIA community declared their intention to protest. While law enforcement was told to expect approximately three hundred protesters, somewhere between six and ten thousand community members and allies descended into downtown Houston. It was in this profound statement of unity that Houston’s LGBTQIA community recognized their power. This realization led to a conference of community leaders that met at the Astrodome, known as “Town Meeting One”. This led to the formation of entities that now make up the Montrose Center; this is their story.

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The Montrose Center was officially founded in 1978, beginning by offering therapy and behavioral health services. There were many setbacks in the formative years, especially in regard to funding, mostly due to the prohibitive cost of providing health insurance to those employees living with HIV/AIDS. In 1990, the Ryan White CARE Act was passed, and the center became the first behavioral health center in the US to be awarded federal funds under the act. Also in the 1990s, they became one of the first organizations to offer temporary housing and shelter to gay men and transgender people. They have continued breaking boundaries consistently since, and many thousands of people have found their way to the building on Branard Street ever since.


The Montrose Center is currently the 5th largest LGBTQIA center in the nation, and continues to be a place where people can gather and respond to the pressing needs of those that cannot speak for themselves. They specifically target LGBTQIA issues through ever-changing programming and staff competency across its six areas of service- counseling, HIV, community wellness, women’s health, and senior services. It also provides social and sensitivity training for all incoming HPD cadets, while working on providing this same training for officers who have been in the Houston Police Department since before this was available. 

“More than 100,000 Houstonians find hope through our programs and services each year. Advocating for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Houstonians is a calling, and the volunteers, staff, Board of Directors, and executive team are fully invested in the community’s health and well-being.”

– Ann Robinson, PhD, Executive Director

lesbian-health-initiative-houston-800x458-1-e1518564499514-300x111 Community Highlight: The Montrose CenterThe first area of service that most clients come across when they arrive at The Montrose Center is known as “Life Counseling and Case Management”. This consists of mental and behavioral health counseling, substance abuse programs (CDR), and family and hate crime prevention and awareness (AVP).  A full 20% of the clients receiving these types of services are on the transgender spectrum, although all people identifying as LGBTQIA (and allies) are welcome with open arms, understanding, and compassion.

Of those served, 3% of total trans clients are seen every year for medical case management. This program is designed to assist those people living with HIV and AIDS while staying in care with a physician, paying for medication, along with a host of other services related to their specific condition. The goal is to create a care team that will stay in touch with the client and assorted medical providers to ensure they are given the most appropriate aid, catered to the needs of the individual.

The Hate Crimes and Anti Violence Prevention Program, or AVP is responsible for helping 26% of the yearly trans client population of the center. The volunteers and therapists in this subdepartment help identify threats, remove clients from harmful and dangerous situations, and teach life and relationship skills to ensure a safer future. The Montrose Center has a series of safe houses for those that feel they are in immediate danger and have been key in removing many people from violent, dangerous situations.

The “Way Out” substance abuse recovery program sees 5% of the trans client population graduate each year. This program is a way for people to seek help with drug and alcohol abuse in a safe, secure environment with people who understand the unique issues facing the transgender community in recovery.

All these services are provided by a team of therapists, counselors, volunteers, and administrative staff who have made it their goal to assist LGBTQIA people in the pursuit of a safe and healthy mental and emotional life.

“In the behavioral health (counseling, recovery, case management) services of the Montrose Center we follow the WPATH Standards of Care for the Health of Transgender, and Gender Nonconforming People (version 7).  We use the correct name and pronouns for the true gender of our clients and provide a safe and affirming environment within all of our services. Our clinical staff is trained on transgender cultural competency and humility. We accept and value you as you are.

According to the WPATH standards, a mental health screening and/or assessment is needed for a referral letter for hormonal and surgical treatments for gender dysphoria but psychotherapy – although highly recommended – is not a requirement. The Montrose Center can provide the screening and referral letter for hormones and surgery.

The standards also describe ways psychotherapy and mental health services can be helpful for people who are transgender. These include:

  • Supporting clients throughout all phases of exploration of gender identity, gender expression, and transition.
  • Clarifying and exploring gender identity and role.
  • Addressing the impact of stigma and minority stress on one’s mental health and human development.
  • Facilitating a coming out process.
  • Aiding in alleviating any co-existing mental health concerns (e.g., anxiety, depression) identified during screening and assessment.
  • Assistance with coming out to family and community (friends, school, workplace).
  • Family counseling or support for family members.
  • Referring  adolescents for additional physical interventions (such as puberty suppressing hormones)

The Montrose Center also has several transgender support groups that meet in our community. Transgender people can also have the ordinary problems everyone else has. The Montrose Center provides an array of mental health services such as general counseling, substance abuse treatment and recovery, trauma, domestic violence, sexual abuse and hate crimes counseling, HIV counseling and case manage, and youth and elder support services all in an LGBTQ accepting and affirming environment.”

-Chris Kerr, Med, LPC, Clinical Director of the Montrose Center

mcpride Community Highlight: The Montrose CenterSpecialty services are provided to the client population living with HIV and AIDS. These services include, but are not limited to: housing assistance, case management, community outreach, HIV education, and no-cost testing. Many people at the center come together to help clients stay in care and off the streets. The transgender population, especially trans women of color, are particularly susceptible to the ravages of this virus, and The Montrose Center assists these people with compassion and understanding. 4% of the client population seen by this area of service are transgender and are always treated with the respect that they deserve.

The Montrose Community Center is a department that centralizes many assorted areas of care.  

In order to help provide a better quality of life for the clients of the Center, they keep a food pantry, wellness classes, outreach and advocacy programs, and rental space in order to host events for leaders and organizations in Houston.  The Transgender Thanksgiving Potluck has been held here as well for the last three years, and it is a place for those trans people who may not have family to gather with during the holidays. This event sees about 70 people per year, and allows those that attend a way to network and socialize. There are several peer-led transgender support groups that meet also, and $13,955 worth of rental space is donated each year to trans and community of color focused groups and initiatives. Last year alone, 1,253 events were held at the center for a total of 64,438 individual visits.

All restrooms in the center are gender-neutral, with several single occupancy options as well. All guests are greeted with gender neutral pronouns until they specify otherwise. Great care has been taken to respect all people regardless of their journey in life. There are two trans organizations in the center’s non-profit incubator, giving them time and space to grow to help others.

“Finding spaces that are truly inclusive has always been a challenge for the transgender community and even more so for those of color. The Montrose Center is not only a hub of resources and services but a safe haven for the transgender population here in Houston.”

– Atlantis Narcisse, Community Projects Specialist Volunteers  

hatch-300x300 Community Highlight: The Montrose CenterHatch Youth Services are available to gender non-conforming people of varying ages. From the weekly meetings that have seen 532 visits in the last year, to the programs designed to help homeless LGBTQ youth, many teenagers have seen their lives improve from being a part of the Hatch system. They also host a yearly prom, Vision Quest, and projects to teach individuals to be comfortable with who they are. While Hatch is a public program, these meetings and groups are all confidential, and the attendees are treated as patients with all the rights that go along with that, regardless of age.

“When I first went to HATCH, I was homeless, in high school, and had no support system in place. Now, I’ve just graduated college, I work at the Montrose Center, and I have a place to call home. None of that would have been possible without the strong support system, resources, and assistance that HATCH Youth Services provided. My story is only representative of a fraction of the immeasurable impact that HATCH and the Montrose has had on hundreds of youth all over Houston.”

-Crimson Jordan, Montrose Center VISTA Member


The LGBT+ Women’s Services include six educational events attended by 51 LGBT+ women, and programs targeting these women saw 18,193 served in the last year. These are designed to include not only trans women, but trans men as well who may be in need of reproductive health, or mental health services.


“Our priorities with LHI is to center our work and advocacy around those who are the most marginalized by structural systems in the US. Therefore, much of our programming is geared towards building community around trans, nonbinary folks, poc folks, religious minorities, bisexual womyn, persons with disabilities, and especially all who especially lie at multiple minority intersections.  Our hope is to provide service for and create community and celebration around those who are most often shamed and “othered” in contemporary society.”

– Naushaba Patel, MPH, Women’s Health Education and Outreach Specialist

spry-300x300 Community Highlight: The Montrose CenterSPRY Senior Services keeps a diner for seniors, hosts trips and outings, and assists those in need with housing. The diner, last year alone, serves 3,233 hot lunches at no charge. This is open to all seniors, but as with most of the programs at the center, cater specifically to LGBTQ+ people.

There are so many more things that you can find through the Montrose Center website. The ability for the transgender community to have a safe haven, a place to feel like they belong, can do so much to save lives. So, if you’re curious about what’s on offer, check them out.

Trans About Town: Roxanne Hutchins

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Roxanne Hutchins is a 50-year-old trans woman from Whistleville, Georgia who has been working with trans women of color for the better part of three years. In addition to being a local drag legend, she has made it her mission to increase visibility for the community as a whole. She is a quiet, private woman offstage, but a force to be reckoned with when she’s out. She has been medically transitioning since 1996, and considers this a lifetime commitment.

Roxanne1-220x300 Trans About Town: Roxanne HutchinsI’m not sure about you, but I would consider you pretty famous in this town! To what would you attribute your familiarity in the Houston transgender community?

Commitment. Once I knew that I was trans and made that commitment to be my genuine self, it made me walk and act with consciousness. This allowed me to identify to people. I was never treated like a “drag queen”, but always like a lady in the gay community. Many people recognized me for who I was before I even admitted it to myself. Once you commit to that life, and you walk the walk and talk the talk, people will see and respect that.

Tell us a bit about the work that you do with trans women of color.

I’ve always been like a big sister to people in the community. I have plans to start a “big brother, big sister” program soon to mentor people just coming to find themselves. I’ve taken a step back temporarily to take care of myself, but when I return that’s definitely a plan I have going forward. We also have plans to start a fundraising campaign to grant scholarships to get surgeries and things done.

In the past I’ve volunteered with an organization called MSociety, and we developed a program for black trans women called SOS, Save our Sisters. We are going on our third year. It’s a place for black trans women to meet and mentor each other. We talk about our lives and help each other with issues that we have. We have also been helping other people get their name and gender marker changes done, with the help of some people here in Houston. We want to do so many more.

I also think it’s important to know that the things I want to start will be open to all trans people. We cannot segregate ourselves, because if we keep seeing ourselves as different, then all we will see is the differences.

Roxanne2-300x300 Trans About Town: Roxanne HutchinsWhat do you feel is the more rewarding part about that work, and why are black trans women particularly in need of visibility in leadership?

After my attorney helped me change my legal information and we set up a clinic, we were able to get several groups of women’s name and gender changes done as well. That was so rewarding, it changed their lives. This was almost a year ago. To know that you had that kind of impact, and in some instances might have even saved some lives, that was big. I really felt very proud of that. I want to do that again, I want to do more.

For the second part of the question, I feel like visibility in leadership is so important because people need to be able to see themselves in their representation. We have such strong leaders, but some may not know that. They don’t see people in those roles that they can look up to. It’s difficult to build people up if they don’t see people that look like them in leadership. But being trans doesn’t have to be all that you are. We shouldn’t marginalize ourselves. The struggle of transgender women is the struggle of all women. When we see women in positions of power we should identify with them, no matter what color their skin is or if they are LGBT or not.

What do you feel are the biggest issues that trans women of color face in society right now?

Safety. When I’m out in the world, people don’t see me as anything other than a black woman. But when I come home, I’m alone. It’s when I’m the most trans. Sometimes I ride the bus, and the walk from the stop to my house is the longest walk for me, because I don’t feel safe. I’ve been followed and catcalled. I found it odd. It could have turned ugly or even fatal real fast. I can’t speak to white trans people, but black trans women are really a fetish. That can be dangerous, and it affects our dignity and self-respect.

Roxanne3-297x300 Trans About Town: Roxanne HutchinsWhat are the biggest differences between your generation and those that are just now coming to light? How have trans women your age paved the way for younger women?

The journey is so different now. The destination has changed. When I was young we simply set out to be women. We set out to live our best lives, whatever that looked like to us individually. Sally didn’t do it like Betty, but they both did it. Now it seems there is a recipe. There are understood ways that you transition. That’s because people are sharing their transition stories more openly now. We didn’t share experiences we just shared resources. This is good hormone doctor, this is where I get x, y, or z. That was, if you were asked. And now it’s okay if you never have bottom surgery or even top surgery for that matter. Trans is so different today, so different. It is exciting I have to admit, to see what happens next for our people.

I don’t feel that we’ve paved the way for anyone in some ways. We paved the road, but the grass has grown over it because people aren’t walking that path anymore. The way that trans people are taking now is nothing that we have made for them. That’s okay. It’s a good thing. It’s just different.

Roxanne4-300x261 Trans About Town: Roxanne HutchinsTell us about how the terminology has changed since you were coming up. What words do you use that some now may find triggering?

When it comes to triggering it really drives me crazy when people tell others what they can be sensitive about. Tranny isn’t so much a trigger as just downright insulting to me personally. In my day, a tranny was a prostitute. I have never been a hooker. The word tranzy was a term of endearment amongst “us girls”. That word seems to have disappeared from the lingo. My sisters from that generation still use it, and that makes me smile.

Do you have any closing thoughts?

Part of me feels some kind of way using trans in general. Why can’t I just be me, not trans this or trans that? I don’t identify as gay or trans or anything, just me. If we took some time to be the same, instead of just different, then we might get a lot farther. But at the end of the day, your journey is your journey and we have to respect that. Whether you’re trans or cis, it’s ok cause we’re just women. Some people drive a Maserati, some drive a Pinto. They’re still cars. And we are all just people.

We are stronger together than we are apart.